02 August 2017
Just in: When we experience a random and negative outcome we believe that it’s our fault. What’s even more puzzling is that these kinds of experiences lead us to devalue ourselves, to over-remember our personal shortcomings, to encourage us to avoid things we would otherwise enjoy, and they can even convince us to remain in a bad state even though we could easily escape it.
Why do we react in such a self-punishing manner, especially when it is clear that what happened is not our fault?
07 March 2017
“Happy people don’t stick needles in their arms.” I am implying, by association, that happy people don’t enmesh themselves with porn or other unwanted sexual behaviors (UWSBs), as well. The reasoning behind this is that if people are happy, content, fulfilled, satisfied, feeling good about life and themselves, there is absolutely no need to medicate. I have no specific studies to refer to that validate this claim. However, my own anecdotal observations over the last 20 years have certainly been, to me, proof positive that this hypothesis is accurate.
01 June 2016
Managing stress is hard. It’s made harder because the usual advice for how to manage it is pretty bad. In this post we reach the conclusion of the Secret of Stress Management discussion by looking at how exactly to manage stress effectively.
03 March 2016
Sometimes we have emotions we’d rather do without. What is the best way to squash the ones we don’t want and to stretch out the ones we do want? By taking a close look at 5 of the most common emotions, we can find a path towards better living.
25 August 2015
To get to the Second Stage of Recovery, we have to rethink an all too common assumption about what temptations are. This can be challenging even for professionals and
“old pros” in the recovery world, but it can make a huge difference in our ability to enjoy recovery for what it is – a chance to view the world and ourselves in a whole better light. I also give a specific example of how to apply it and even cite a study (no surprise there)!
07 December 2014
In this captivating talk, Derrick Hull discusses the shared experience of being alive. Explaining that thoughts, moods, and feelings are essentially contagious experiences, Hull engagingly cites research from psychology and social science to show the power of becoming a beneficially contagious individual. He is currently pursuing doctoral studies in Clinical and Experimental Psychology at Columbia University.