02 August 2017
Just in: When we experience a random and negative outcome we believe that it’s our fault. What’s even more puzzling is that these kinds of experiences lead us to devalue ourselves, to over-remember our personal shortcomings, to encourage us to avoid things we would otherwise enjoy, and they can even convince us to remain in a bad state even though we could easily escape it.
Why do we react in such a self-punishing manner, especially when it is clear that what happened is not our fault?
02 July 2017
The following is adapted and expanded from an article requested by a well-regarded newspaper publisher.
07 March 2017
“Happy people don’t stick needles in their arms.” I am implying, by association, that happy people don’t enmesh themselves with porn or other unwanted sexual behaviors (UWSBs), as well. The reasoning behind this is that if people are happy, content, fulfilled, satisfied, feeling good about life and themselves, there is absolutely no need to medicate. I have no specific studies to refer to that validate this claim. However, my own anecdotal observations over the last 20 years have certainly been, to me, proof positive that this hypothesis is accurate.
18 May 2016
Stress. It taxes our emotions. It over-focuses us on anything except what matters. It negatively impacts our recovery. So what gives, how do we conquer the stress obstacle? How do we combat procrastination? The single source identified by on-going research that knocks people off of their recovery path is stress – so let’s see if we can figure out what it is.
03 March 2016
Sometimes we have emotions we’d rather do without. What is the best way to squash the ones we don’t want and to stretch out the ones we do want? By taking a close look at 5 of the most common emotions, we can find a path towards better living.
25 August 2015
To get to the Second Stage of Recovery, we have to rethink an all too common assumption about what temptations are. This can be challenging even for professionals and
“old pros” in the recovery world, but it can make a huge difference in our ability to enjoy recovery for what it is – a chance to view the world and ourselves in a whole better light. I also give a specific example of how to apply it and even cite a study (no surprise there)!
01 October 2014
As a leader in the porn addiction community, we often get questions about the most important studies and research on the problem. The following citations help to spell out the science behind pornography and provide some insights into how to address it through modern research in the neurosciences and psychology.