24 July 2016
Let’s review what our training teaches on what is happening in your brain when you feel overwhelmed by big waves and urges that lead to engage in unwanted sexual behaviors.
08 September 2015
10 question test for determining whether or not you’re addicted to pornography.
25 August 2015
To get to the Second Stage of Recovery, we have to rethink an all too common assumption about what temptations are. This can be challenging even for professionals and
“old pros” in the recovery world, but it can make a huge difference in our ability to enjoy recovery for what it is – a chance to view the world and ourselves in a whole better light. I also give a specific example of how to apply it and even cite a study (no surprise there)!
07 February 2015
I spent years fighting porn. I remember hundreds of times feeling frustrated, I hated myself, I was angry and I had no hope. I thought, Why can’t I just stop looking at this stuff? Why can’t I just make up my mind to leave it alone and then just do it? Then I would give in to it again and I was even more convinced that something was seriously wrong with me. I had no will power at all, I was a total loser. Then at the Candeo site I found out some stuff that changed my whole attitude about my porn problem. I learned that porn was changing my brain. It was shrinking my logic center and supercharging my pleasure center. Basically I had lost my self control and was just all about getting another pleasure rush.
10 November 2014
The following is adapted and expanded from an article requested by a well-regarded newspaper publisher.
01 October 2014
As a leader in the porn addiction community, we often get questions about the most important studies and research on the problem. The following citations help to spell out the science behind pornography and provide some insights into how to address it through modern research in the neurosciences and psychology.
23 July 2014
There’s a lot of talk online about Success Rates. I’ve been pretty disappointed with what I’ve seen. What does a success rate of 80% mean? Does it mean that your approach worked for 80% of the people and for the rest it was a complete failure? Does it mean you “cured” 80% of those who went through your program as if addiction is some kind of a bacterial infection? What are your drop-out rates? Do you have an 80% success rate among the 2 in 50 people who stay in your program?
23 June 2014
When a person first is exposed to pornography or sexual behaviors it is often done through curiosity. However, due to the high amounts of addictive neurochemicals that are released, particularly with internet pornography, it can quickly become addictive. Students in the Candeo program report going from curiosity, to using it recreationally, then as a source of self-medication, and some to dependency. With dependency, a person’s brain starts viewing these behaviors as a necessity — such as food and water. They also report that they found themselves needing it more and more – just as it was a drug. And they found themselves being led to other types of risky sexual behaviors — which put their physical and mental health in danger, as well as damaged their relationships.
23 May 2014
Get this – After subjects maintained attention on breathing for 15 to 20 minutes a day they had 1) fewer negative feelings, 2) more of the mood boosting neurotransmitter serotonin in their blood and 3) more oxygenated hemoglobin in the prefrontal cortex – which is where the Director and Planner hang out. Moreover, according to Dan Siegel MD, the Director is exercised during meditation and other mindfulness practices and it becomes better able to handle the task of changing your habits and behaviors. Thank goodness for the practice of Gratitude Breathing that has been part of our program since the beginning!