01 June 2016
Managing stress is hard. It’s made harder because the usual advice for how to manage it is pretty bad. In this post we reach the conclusion of the Secret of Stress Management discussion by looking at how exactly to manage stress effectively.
18 May 2016
Stress. It taxes our emotions. It over-focuses us on anything except what matters. It negatively impacts our recovery. So what gives, how do we conquer the stress obstacle? How do we combat procrastination? The single source identified by on-going research that knocks people off of their recovery path is stress – so let’s see if we can figure out what it is.
12 April 2016
When a person engages in unwanted sexual behaviors, especially if they are hiding it from their partner or loved ones, they often feel so much shame their brain creates power defense mechanisms, including rationalizing and justifying. In the training we teach that people often exaggerate and justify the perceived positives of engaging in the behavior, while downplaying or ignoring the real consequences. This thinking error is actually a hallmark of any addiction.
03 March 2016
Sometimes we have emotions we’d rather do without. What is the best way to squash the ones we don’t want and to stretch out the ones we do want? By taking a close look at 5 of the most common emotions, we can find a path towards better living.
28 February 2016
When it comes to sexual urges, masturbation is a common outlet that Candeo Students engage in at some level. Common questions about masturbation include—“Is masturbation OK?” “How many times a day can I masturbate?” “If I can’t masturbate are you saying that I can’t have any type of relief?” “If my partner won’t or can’t have sex, is masturbation an acceptable alternative?”
07 December 2015
One compelling reason you may stay “stuck” in unwanted sexual behaviors is fear. Fear is a powerful force in our lives. Understanding how to effectively deal with fear is absolutely necessary in order to free you from a lifestyle that has been destructive, limiting, and seemingly beyond your control.
08 October 2015
One of the most powerful consequences of developing unwanted sexual behaviors is experiencing shame. Shame also seems to be one of the culprits that keep people stuck in their unwanted behaviors. Let’s explore a little about shame.
08 September 2015
10 question test for determining whether or not you’re addicted to pornography.
25 August 2015
To get to the Second Stage of Recovery, we have to rethink an all too common assumption about what temptations are. This can be challenging even for professionals and
“old pros” in the recovery world, but it can make a huge difference in our ability to enjoy recovery for what it is – a chance to view the world and ourselves in a whole better light. I also give a specific example of how to apply it and even cite a study (no surprise there)!
09 August 2015
It might not seem like it right now, but there is much to look forward to in a life free of unwanted and difficult to change behavior. This short list contains some of the changes you can expect as demonstrated by research and our years of experience.