• Can Failure REALLY Improve the Brain

    I don’t know the part of the brain that helps us convert tragedy into triumph, or failure into amazing success, but I know it happens. I have felt like giving up many times in my life, especially when I was right smack dab in the middle of failure. As I have said many times, our failures/slips/relapses can be miracles in disguise, if I’ll take the time to review them, look for the weakness, and strengthen it. Then, add to this the mantra found in Og Mandino’s amazing book The Greatest Salesman in the World: “I will persist until I succeed,” and we simply cannot fail.

  • Struggling with SADDness?

    A new term coined in 2011 by sex counselor Ian Kerner called sexual attention deficit disorder (SADD), is now being used more and more frequently to describe the unforeseen consequences of a vanishing libido among men who view online pornography. In their attempts to “chase the high” of an orgasm, many men need increasingly more visually stimulating and explicit material. When opportunities arise to engage in sexual relations with spouses or partners, however, many men are found to be missing in action, and simply unable to perform.

  • How to feel closer and be better

    It’s no surprise to anyone these days that the relationships we have with the people around us are not just meaningful but important to our well-being and health.

    Research is increasingly identifying ways to engage with these relationships that serve others and ourselves better.

  • The Secret of Stress Management - Part II

    Managing stress is hard. It’s made harder because the usual advice for how to manage it is pretty bad. In this post we reach the conclusion of the Secret of Stress Management discussion by looking at how exactly to manage stress effectively.

  • The Secret of Stress Management - Part I

    Stress. It taxes our emotions. It over-focuses us on anything except what matters. It negatively impacts our recovery. So what gives, how do we conquer the stress obstacle? How do we combat procrastination? The single source identified by on-going research that knocks people off of their recovery path is stress – so let’s see if we can figure out what it is.

  • How does Rationalizing and Justifying affect my Recovery?

    When a person engages in unwanted sexual behaviors, especially if they are hiding it from their partner or loved ones, they often feel so much shame their brain creates power defense mechanisms, including rationalizing and justifying. In the training we teach that people often exaggerate and justify the perceived positives of engaging in the behavior, while downplaying or ignoring the real consequences. This thinking error is actually a hallmark of any addiction.

  • Emotion Antidotes for Everyday Life

    Sometimes we have emotions we’d rather do without. What is the best way to squash the ones we don’t want and to stretch out the ones we do want? By taking a close look at 5 of the most common emotions, we can find a path towards better living.

  • What about Masturbation?

    When it comes to sexual urges, masturbation is a common outlet that Candeo Students engage in at some level. Common questions about masturbation include—“Is masturbation OK?” “How many times a day can I masturbate?” “If I can’t masturbate are you saying that I can’t have any type of relief?” “If my partner won’t or can’t have sex, is masturbation an acceptable alternative?”

  • Why are you stuck?

    One compelling reason you may stay “stuck” in unwanted sexual behaviors is fear. Fear is a powerful force in our lives. Understanding how to effectively deal with fear is absolutely necessary in order to free you from a lifestyle that has been destructive, limiting, and seemingly beyond your control.

  • How Shame Keeps You Stuck

    One of the most powerful consequences of developing unwanted sexual behaviors is experiencing shame. Shame also seems to be one of the culprits that keep people stuck in their unwanted behaviors. Let’s explore a little about shame.

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